It's more than a booty call, but less than a boyfriend/girlfriend. You go on dates, but you don't "label" it. You have a toothbrush at their place, but you haven't met their friends. Welcome to the situationship, the purgatory of modern dating.
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You can plan a date for next Friday, but try planning a concert three months out. If they freeze, change the subject, or say "let's see where we are then," you are in the danger zone.
2. Inconsistent Communication
They text you every hour for two days, then vanish for three. This is "intermittent reinforcement," a psychological trick that makes you crave their validation even more. It's toxic, it's confusing, and it's a hallmark of a situationship.
3. No Labels (But Jealously Exists)
They say they "don't like labels" or "don't want to rush things," yet they get annoyed if you mention going out with someone else. They want the perks of commitment (your loyalty) without the price tag (their commitment).
4. The "Hang Out" vs. The "Date"
You mostly hang out at home. You watch Netflix. You order take-out. You rarely go on actual dates in public—dinners, events, activities. Public dates signal to the world that you are a pair. Keeping you inside keeps you a secret.
5. You Haven't Met The Friends
If you've been "seeing each other" for 6 months and you've never met their best friend, roommate, or sibling, you are not a priority. Most people integrate their partners into their social lives. If you are siloed off, you are temporary.
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